Why Should I Date?: THE TRUTH ABOUT DATING

      'Dating' is a common word used by most youths in describing a love relationship between two opposite sex. While going into a relationship, most people fail to ask themselves this question: "why should I date?" or"why am I going into this relationship" . Yes, you were asked out by a guy and you said yes to him because he is popular, rich, handsome, nice and maybe brilliant too, he has virtually all that a lady want in a guy and you call him"my dream man" without you even knowing what purpose and why you are dating him for. That is why most relationship crash easily because it wasn't based on any principle or purpose. The same thing applicable to a guy who sees a beautiful lady that dresses nicely and probably sings well,and the next thing that crosses his mind
 is "oh! I love this girl,she's beautiful or she sings well" without him realizing that he only loves her appearance or the way she sings, not her 'real self ' or personality. Apparently, most people go into a relationship just to be tagged with someone,some even go with the mind that it is what is in vogue, my friends already have boyfriends/girlfriends, he is handsome/beautiful, I feel lonely, I need someone who will listen to me anytime or it is so uncalled for if I do not have who I'm dating at this my age, a lot of misconceptions happen and some even do so because of sexual urge,so, the opposite sex becomes indirectly your  'sex partner' not your 'Lover'
   
 Come to think of it, going into a relationship on the basis of physical appearance that the person is beautiful or handsome,  such relationship is bound to be easily broken because when one of them sees a more attractive person, he/she quits. Being lonely is also not a good criteria of going into a relationship, there is going to be selflessness in such relationship because you're mainly looking for a "consoler" not a "lover". What really matters is love. Do you really love the person you want to date or you love the physical appearance, status, or skills of the person, there is a clear difference between these things. Loving unconditionally i.e loving without condition is the basis of any successful relationship. Do not use ultimately physical appearances, status or skills to determine who you go with. Get closer to the person you think you like and get to know the person better before deciding whether or not to date the person also, take your time before accepting to date anybody.
     
 Conclusively, date a person you love, understand, date someone you respect and that also reciprocate that, date someone you share common values with, someone you can confide in and also know that no body is perfect and perfection  can be brought out of imperfection.⧭

DATE WITH PURPOSE NOT REASONS.

                             
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